How Your Man Thinks – And How To Get Him To Be More Open

When you hear a woman say, “We never go out,” you may instinctively understand. But, men don’t. Most don’t even have a clue – and that may surprise you.

And let me ask you?

When men talk about “ego,” what do they really mean? Tough one right?

Well, it’s the same with men – understanding you is tough. That’s why he shows displeasure when you suggest things. It’s why he gives you solution, when all you need is his listening ear.

He just doesn’t get it because…

Men and women are psychologically different. So they speak – and understand – different ‘sub-language.’

By understanding these differences, you can become the only woman that truly “gets” him. As a result, he will cherish, appreciate and be more open to you.

He will give you what you need and make you happy.

Every man wants to please his woman and make her happy. Yes. When he loves a woman, he wants to give.

But like women, men love the way they want to be loved – the way they understand.

I call it the “male empathy.”

Men give when they feel needed, trusted and appreciated. It makes them feel empowered.

He needs to feel he’s important to you. He needs you to trust that he will do his best. He needs his efforts appreciated.

Let’s get specific…

Men value competency power, efficiency and achievement.

That’s why they’re more “logically” and “physically” oriented – and less emotive.

His primary source of fulfillment comes from success and accomplishments. This is what defines his sense of self.  That’s why he’s always doing things to prove himself– but he needs to achieve them by himself.

He only asks for help when he feels he needs it – to him, it’s a sign of wisdom.

And that’s why he gets offended when you advice or correct him. He feels insulted.

You might be doing it to nurture him and help him grow; but, he will instinctively interpret it as you telling him that you don’t trust him to know what to do – as if you are trying to control him.

It may be hard for you to understand but… Never advice or suggest to him – or else he asks for it. And when you do, just point the facts. That’s how to nurture him.

For example…

If he misses his way while driving, don’t suggest he use the map – or anything like that – unless he explicitly asks for it.

Be clear on what you want: be assertive. When he gives you solutions and all you want is his attention, tell him. He wants to be clearly shown how to make you happy. That’s how his mind works.

When a man is upset, he becomes alone or silent.

You may usually try to help him by trying to get him talking. He’ll reject it.

If a man saw another man in that mood, what he does is to leave him alone because he instinctively understands. That’s male empathy.

But as a woman, it’s easy to miss the point.

You see! Men DON’T deal with their problem by talking about it. They deal with it by finding solutions “by their self”. So they need to be alone.

By trying to get him talking, he may get offended.

It’s like telling him that you don’t trust him to solve the problem by himself – that he’s incompetent.

So when you see him in that mood and he refuses to open up to you, you may think he’s rejecting you.

No he’s not. He needs you to leave him alone.

He’ll love you more for understanding. As a result, he’ll start coming out of his shell and being more open and attentive.

Trust me. It works like magic.

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